After a long winter, which continued through the month of April, gardening in Wisconsin proves to be an exercise in delayed gratification. And there's nothing whatsoever I can do -- Mother Nature has the reins. My job is to move the plants around, get rid of the weeds, add mulch, and wait. Looking around the garden, I see lots and lots of scapes, but hardly any flowers yet. Is it really the end of June? The *wait* part is getting harder and harder by the day. So it looks like delayed gratification isn't my only issue; add whining to the list!

Pictured is my old faithful 'Moonlit Masquerade,' one of only four daylilies blooming in my yard on June 24.

The great thing about growing daylilies is that no matter what your income level is, you can find one to fit your budget. There are so many exceptional daylilies available that you can purchase for $10 and under. And on the other end of the spectrum, there are trend-setting daylilies you can buy for up to $300. After a daylily has been out on the open market for a while, the purchase price gradually decreases over time as new cultivars are introduced each year.

When I was first bitten by the daylily bug my kiddos were in elementary school. At that time I remember feeling guilty that I spent more money than I should have on a daylily. Should I have bought school clothes instead? I ultimately decided that the new daylily made me a happier Mom. How's that for rationalization?

Although I'm still not in a place to afford triple-digit daylily prices, that doesn't dampen my enthusiasm by any means. I just have to wait a little longer to get what's on my wish list. As it stands right now, I am perfectly happy getting the seven and eight-year-old daylilies. As each year passes, hybridizers come up with more and more innovative, cutting-edge daylilies. Consequently, there is always yet another daylily that I must have -- it's a never-ending cycle.

Pictured: Daylily 'Signs and Wonders.'  At the time I bought this pretty, it was my biggest splurge to date. Sorry? Not really.

It's one thing to have a flower garden, and quite another to keep it weed-free. Simplifying my garden over the last two years has saved me so much time and effort. Since I don't like clutter, I'm not sentimental about what I keep and what I don't keep. I made the decision to focus on my daylilies, because they are what I truly love. I only have a finite amount of time available to keep things looking nice so I made some changes. Here's what I did:

Removed the 40 foot long split-rail fence. Fences are weed magnets. What a back-breaker crawling under and around a fence trying to remove weeds. This never bothered me 20 years ago, but that was then and this is now. Ange helped me pull the fence posts out, fill up the holes with dirt, and haul the fence posts and rails away with our John Deere lawn tractor. Best decision ever! In addition, there is much more air flow for my daylilies which they have really responded to.

Goodbye Garden Phlox. Garden phlox are fragrant and pretty from a distance, but up close they were -- I'll just say 'not pretty.' Every year they got powdery mold and mildew. I was not willing to put in the time to get rid of the mold and mildew year-after-year. As they grew and spread they would get entangled with Creeping Charlie and crabgrass; then the ticks moved in.

Ditto to Bee Balm. I know hummingbirds and butterflies love them, but unfortunately I don't. They have tender shallow little roots that constantly got tangled up with weeds. I got tired of re-planting them each time I weeded and accidentally pulled them out. They got powdery mold and mildew too , even in full sun.

The flowers in the above two photos are long gone. Last summer was the first time that weeding was easily doable. And I thought my garden was still beautiful, even without the fence, the phlox and the bee balm.

Persistence is a trait that those of us who garden are very well-versed in. There's not much about a garden that doesn't involve hard core persistence. You may love flowers. You may imagine having flowers. You may have motivation. But in the end, it's persistence that does all the hard work.

Since I learned to garden by the trial and error method, I've had countless failures along the way. My thumb doesn't always glow green. Far from it! But I do find that with continued effort I can eventually achieve the end product I imagined, or pretty darn close to it.

     “Success is not the absence of failure; it's the persistence through failure.”   ~ Aisha Tyler

Persistence will be rewarded. My flowers thank me every year. And it is beyond exciting when the blooms arrive!

Pictured: Daylily 'Andy Candy'

I've learned that it's the small things that are important in life, as is living gratefully. Since the year is winding down, I took a look back and came up with ten moments of 2017 that made me feel grateful. Here they are:

1. Finding my favorite treat on the copy room table at the office. Work is always better with treats!
2. Receiving 'Daylily Dollars' to spend at the 2017 Daylily Society Sale. Daylily dollars look like Monopoly money, only with daylilies on it. Believe me, it's much more fun to buy daylilies than a plastic hotel for Park Avenue.
   
3. Putting my coat on and finding $5 in the pocket that I forgot all about.
4. Getting all psyched-up to get a cracked molar drilled for a crown and finding out, after the drilling started, that it was only a surface crack that  a 15-minute filling would remedy just fine. Can it get better than this?
5. Finding out that my 7-year-old granddaughter got caught by her Dad asking 'Alexa' for all the answers while doing Math homework. There's nothing wrong with her problem-solving skills! Where was Alexa when I had Math homework?
6. Hearing my 3-year-old grandson say "I help!" And smiling, knowing full-well what that really means...
7. Playing Rummy Royal with friends and laughing so hard that we cry -- the 'duh' moments seem to be increasing.
8. Being asked for the thousandth time if my dear friend Sandy and I are sisters. The best one happened a few weeks ago when Sandy and I were together with Susie, her actual sister. Susie was told  "No, you can't possibly be her sister -- she is!" (as the person pointed to me). This has occurred constantly over the years. May the years continue.
9. Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, TACOS, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
10. And finally, Ange; he always keeps me smiling in a sometimes non-smiling world.
    
    

And how about your ten moments? What are you grateful for?

Pictured: My fashionista-granddaughter's feet/shoes. She can 'up-style' absolutely anything!

Now that the cold weather has arrived in Wisconsin, my ability to imagine is the only garden activity that is going on. And I can do 'imagine.' I'm well into my favorite activity of list-making to keep track of what needs to happen in my garden during 2018. After all, you've got to have a plan before you can make things happen. I'm sure many, if not all of you gardeners have a similar mindset.

Here's what I've come up with so far:

1. What plants do I want to cull? (None really, but if I want some new ones this must happen.)
2. What plants need to be moved to different locations?
3. What is working well in my garden and what is not?
4. Narrow down my daylily 'wish list' to an affordable amount
   
5. Replace any plant labels that are looking rough
6. Update my garden maps to reflect what changed during 2017
   
7. Organize the hundreds of garden photos I took over the summer
8. Get my annual seeds put away that are currently drying on cookie sheets
   
9. Take some time to visit some online daylily sites
   
10. And finally, imagine what's in store for next year's bloom season
    

Pictured: A close-up of the double daylily 'Buckeye Barnstormer'

Over the years I've grown some of my own daylily seedlings. And to be honest, most of them were disappointingly pedestrian. One thing for sure, it gave me a glimpse of the scope involved in hybridizing an award-winning daylily -- all the hours of research, pollinating, seed collecting, planting, weeding and evaluating. What a methodical, detailed labor of love it is.

So I'm that person who does nothing more than grow, enjoy, and appreciate the daylilies. How wonderful for me, that I can simply pick out a daylily--any size, color, or shape--whatever my heart desires. I can simply purchase, plant, and behold the beauty. It can't get any easier than that. I'm glad there are so many hybridizers out there doing all of the really hard work; call me grateful!

Pictured: Daylily 'Raspberry Goosebumps'

Logically, I know plant performance boils down to what zone you live in, weather/temperature, soil quality, fertilizer, water, and exposure to sun. In addition there are differences between evergreen, semi-evergreen, and dormant daylilies. But honestly, there are days I could swear a few of my daylilies have attitudes. The adage "bloom where you are planted" holds true for the vast majority of my plants, but there are definitely some holdouts. I can transplant one daylily and it joyfully continues to bloom away, seemingly unaffected by the change. I can do the same with another, and it will be sensitive, pout for a year and maybe even forego blooming entirely,  just to let me know that it is not happy with the change.

Just as attitude is important in the workplace, it is in my garden is as well. I like to keep my daylily family well-adjusted, happy, and all working toward the same mission -- unbridled bloom!

Pictured is 'Betty Woods,' a dormant, diploid double. She is most certainly beautiful, but despite her multiple awards Betty was a poster child for an indifferent attitude in my garden. After years of temperamental behavior she was adopted by my friend Becky. I am happy to report that she appears to be much happier in Becky's garden. Oddly enough, sometimes that's all it takes.

As much as gardening makes me happy, there are a few things I find somewhat annoying.
Here's my top ten:

1. Checking the weather to make sure rain is NOT in the forecast. Spending half-an-hour spraying deer deterrent on all my flowers while it's sunny. Hearing thunder in the distance not two hours later, followed by a rainstorm that lasts only long enough to wash off all the deer deterrent.
2. Planting a new perennial and finding it the next day all chewed up and lying on top of the soil about a foot away from where it was planted.
3. Constantly digging walnut trees out of my flower garden. I do not love walnut trees; thank you very much squirrels.
4. Moles burrowing underneath my new daylily babies and heaving them out of the ground.
5. Finding a dead, rotting whatever in my flower garden.
6. Watching a bunny eating a daylily scape that I can't get to quick enough.
7. Same as #6, but replace the word 'bunny' with 'deer.'
8. Japanese beetles 'doing the nasty' on my daylilies. Really?
9. May gardening in my winter coat. I love Wisconsin.
10. W.E.E.D.S.

Pictured: Daylily 'Green Mystique' inundated with Japanese beetles

Peak bloom is over in Wisconsin, even though some of my late daylilies are still blooming. For whatever reason, my garden never seems to grow exactly the way I planned or imagined it to. As hard as I try, there are always those areas that need to be fixed. Sound familiar? As the season winds down, I have started my list for fall transplanting and dividing. It's my annual attempt to make my flower garden look even better next year. Those of you who garden know how painstaking the decisions can be. Especially when you are dealing with the ever-present trifecta of size, color, and bloom time being different for each individual plant. In addition, there are so many variations in soil and location (even within my own yard) that can impact the plant's growth, not to mention weather and temperature!

Questions I have asked myself:

• How did that daylily grow six inches taller than its description? I can't see the plant behind it!
  
• Why did this one only grow 25" instead of the anticipated 35"?
  
• Who planted THAT plant there? Couldn't have been me...
• Did a mole burrow underneath this poor daylily?
  
• What was I thinking when I put those two peach plants next to each other?
• Did I really manage to leave an open space in the garden with no bloom in mid-July?

I rest assured knowing that Mother Nature always gives me a second (third, and fourth) chance to get it right. So as long as I'm able, I'll just keep on trying...thanks Mom!

Pictured: Daylily 'Carnival in Mexico'

I may be just one person, who grows just one garden, but my chemical-free yard does make a difference.

My flower garden:

• reduces pollution and purifies the air by absorbing carbon dioxide and  releasing oxygen.
• reduces greenhouse gases.
• helps to remove chemicals and bacteria from water in the ground.
• supports beneficial insects, bees, frogs, butterflies, birds, and bats to name just a few.
• has plants, trees, and shrubs that can absorb sound and help with noise pollution.
• assists with reducing water run-off and soil erosion.
• provides beauty and tranquility, keeps me fit, but most of all -- makes me happy.

Pictured: A tiny visitor sitting on a day-old bloom of 'Techny Peace'

If you grow daylilies, you can take the madness a step further and collect plants with specific topic-related names to comprise a theme garden. To date, there are 83,487 registered/reserved cultivars, so finding a theme is quite easy.

For instance you could choose:

• Names  - Let's say there's a 'Jean' in your family. I searched the American Hemerocallis Society Daylily Database and came up with dozens of daylilies with 'Jean' in their name. You could even assemble a special tribute garden for a family member who has passed. There are numerous daylilies with "heaven" and "angel" in their name.
• Holidays - I searched Halloween and  came up with "Halloween Costume," "Halloween Candy," "Halloween Face Paint, " and "Halloween High Jinx." There are others like "October Thirty-First," and "Trick or Treat."
• Native American - "Cherokee Memories," "Cheyenne Bride," "Comanche Drums," "Topguns Pawnee Princess," "Pueblo Sunrise," "Geronimo's Spirit," and "Navajo Blanket."
• The state you live in - For 'Wisconsin' I came up with  "Teasing Wisconsin, "Wisconsin Cream," and "Wisconsin Warlock." I also found "Packer Backer," and "Cheese Head."
• And finally, Led Zeppelin songs: "Kashmir," "Stairway to Heaven," "Heartbreaker," "All My Love," "Moby Dick," "Dazed and Confused," and "Over the Hills and Far Away." I did this search just to prove you can find daylilies related to just about any topic, no matter how obscure.

Once you've decided on a theme, then comes the fun part -- finding the daylily vendors and buying the plants.

Pictured: "Tholian Web" (2004) You could add this daylily to your 'Sci-Fi' garden, since its name originates from an episode of Star Trek entitled 'The Tholian Web' that was aired in 1968.

Last weekend (February 18-19) was, yet again, unseasonably warm in Wisconsin -- over 60 degrees! This gave me an opportunity to check out all my plants and see how they fared over the winter. As I walked around the yard, I had to tread carefully to avoid deer droppings. Gross!

After some online reading regarding how to collect and dispose of the droppings before mowing season starts, I learned that deer feces can carry dangerous strains of E.coli. So, worse than finding droppings in your yard or flower garden would be finding them in your vegetable garden, or say strawberry patch. Food-related outbreaks of E.coli have definitely been linked to deer droppings. (As if the deer ticks aren't bad enough!)

Deer waste should be handled carefully. Try to remove as many droppings as possible, using a shovel to bury it elsewhere, and be sure to disinfect your shovel before you use it for any other tasks.

It's hard to believe this cute little fawn can cause such dire problems. I'm getting out the deer deterrent, and ALWAYS wearing gloves!

Fawn photo from pixabay.com Creative Commons-public domain photo.

When I watched HGTV (Home and *Garden* Television) it was the gardening and landscaping shows that I liked the best. Over the years, the 'G' in HGTV has all but vanished! No more "The City Gardener," "A Gardener's Diary," "Curb Appeal," "Urban Outsiders" and other used-to-be's. I miss the valuable ideas and tips I learned from these shows. When I drive around in just about any neighborhood, gardening and landscaping is very much alive and well. So just call me puzzled. Where are the gardening shows?

HGTV needs a new, more correct identity acronym; something like RETV (Real Estate TV).

I took this photo at the Chicago Botanic Garden. The shrubs were enormous, but the statue was epic!

 Last week I had a lively conversation with my friends. We were talking and laughing about the countless ways we have inflicted pain upon ourselves and been grossed-out, all  in the name of gardening.  It's what we refer to as "the dark side" of tending to our daylilies/flowers.  Here are a few of our collective experiences. You may smile and nod your head with familiarity. And P.S., I'm not admitting to any specific event as being my own. Smile.

• Pitchforks work great for lifting daylilies from the ground. They also are quite efficient at stabbing you in the leg. Thank you tetanus shot.
• Wheelbarrows are handy helpers...that can quickly turn into vehicles of destruction when you lose control of them while going down a hill.
• An unbalanced wheelbarrow=a bad thing. They inflict pain when they fall over on your leg/foot. The dirt and sharp tools inside just add insult to injury.
• Wire tomato cages are great for protecting new daylily plantings from deer. Just trip over them and see how much blood they can draw, especially the rusty ones. Again, thank you tetanus shot.
• Seeing a long handled claw tool (or garden rake) on the ground -- spikes up -- and mentally making note that you really need to turn it over so you don't step on it; getting distracted for a split second, turning around, stepping on the claw tool and WHOP! Stick-to-the-head.
• Here's a stroke of brilliance -- pulling on that ever-so-solid weed that finally gives way and you end up somersaulting backwards off a brick wall.
• How about taking that deep breath while digging, and getting a mouthful of dirt. (And feeling momentarily bad for mentally chastising someone you have recently seen spitting on the sidewalk...)
• You always wear garden gloves, right? But the *one* time you don't you get the stiff stalk of a weed jammed underneath your fingernail that swells up and takes weeks to be normal again.
• Burning nettle...enough said.
• Unexpectedly finding an underground bee nest, getting swarmed, and running for your life while simultaneously swearing.
• The nicety of clubbing your garden helper in the head with the handle of a shovel after they have so graciously offered to help you.
• Swatting a mosquito on your sweaty face, only to realize your garden glove is full of dirt. That usually happens right around the time a neighbor comes over to chat!
• And speaking of neighbors, there's the 'scare factor.' When you are deep in the gardening Zen-zone and someone comes up behind you and speaks. You jump up from your crouched position and scream, then they jump back and scream as well having been scared from scaring you.
• Accidentally shoveling a poor toad that has burrowed underground in the dirt - which makes for a no-good, horrible day!
• Getting a buzzing insect stuck inside your ear that refuses to come out.
  
• And finally, snorting and/or swallowing a wide variety of bugs. Routinely.

Gardening is just a little bit of yin and a whole bunch of yang. And that's why we still enjoy it!

Pictured above:  Daylily "Sharky's Revenge"